The Answer

Should have just done this yesterday when I was feeling flat .... and if I am going to dance, then this is my ultimate :-)

And I have taken Abbey's advice - I am going to make some changes. No I shall never be conventional and I really don't want to be, but I am a little unsettled (or uncomfortable) about some other bits so I am working on a tweak or two.

One part of me says that someones words shouldn't be able to effect me, the other part says that if they do then I need to pay attention.